Questions to ask a therapist, counselor, or psychologist
So, you did your search and found a few therapists that seem like they might be a good fit for you. They all mention doing a free consultation, which sounds great, but what should you ask? What do you say? And what is even appropriate to ask them?
Questions to ask a virtual therapist in North Carolina or South Carolina
Do you treat my issue?
Hopefully you got this information from their website or directory profile, but be sure to ask if they actually work with the concern you’re bringing to therapy! For example, while the majority of therapists can work with anxiety, it takes specialized training to work with OCD.
What is your experience with my issue?
Have they worked with your particular concern before, and how? Or do they have lived experience? For example, if you are (or suspect you are) autistic or ADHD, you may want to know if your therapist is too, as they will have additional insight into what your experience is like. There’s a reason LGBTQIA folks often look for queer providers- there’s a more inherent understanding of some of the issues and concerns.
What do you mean by “affirming?”
I see this as a big one. You’ll see many therapists post on their websites that they are affirming for one identity or another. It’s ok to ask them what that means. Are they part of that community? Do they seek out trainings from people with lived experience? And generally, what feel do you get from them and their website when asking about these issues?
How often will we meet?
Generally speaking, most counselors will want to meet weekly to begin with, and then taper down. However, everyone has their own style and preference for what works best with the type of therapy they offer. It’s ok to ask.
What are sessions like?
Again, this is going to vary from therapist to therapist, and you’ll likely get everyone’s favorite answer “it depends.” But, most counselors should be able to give you a general idea for what sessions will be like. Some may be very directive, some more supportive, some involve art or music, some have a somatic (body-based) approach.
And any other questions you may have about the therapy process!
Whether you are in North Carolina or South Carolina, I hope this helps you find the right therapist for you. If you are still feeling stuck, or have additional questions, feel free to fill out my contact form for a free 15 minute phone consultation. I’d be happy to hear about what you’re looking for and direct you to the right person. If you are looking for support as an autistic or ADHD adult, you can find out more about that here. And if you are feeling stuck in therapy, and need help breaking through a plateau, you can read about Brainspotting Intensives here.
